To sell is human by Daniel P Pink
The surprising truth about moving others.
The research firm IDC estimates that 30% of American workers now
work on their own and that by 2015, the number of nontraditional workers worldwide
(freelancers, contractors, consultants, and the like) will reach 1.3 billion.
In OECD countries, more than 90% of business now have fewer than 10 employees.
The new ABC of moving others: A- Attunement, B-Buoyancy,
C-Clarity.
Research shows that the effective perspective-taking, attuning yourself
with others, hinges on three principles.
1. Increase your power by reducing it.
The ability to move people now depends on power’s inverse:
understanding another person’s perspective, getting inside his head, and seeing
the world through his eyes. And doing that well requires assuming that you are
the one with power. Start your encounters with the assumption that you are in a
position of lower power. This will help you see the other side’s perspective more
accurately which in turn, will help you move them.
2. Use your head as much as your heart.
Traditional sales and non-sales selling often involve what look
like competing imperatives - cooperation versus competition, group gain versus
individual advantage. As researchers say, ultimately it’s more beneficial to
get inside their heads than to have them inside one’s own heart”. Social
cartography - drawing that map in your head ensures that you don’t miss a
critical player in the process.
3. Mimic strategically.
Successful negotiators recommend that you should mimic the
mannerisms of your negotiation partner to get a better deal. It is important
that the other person does not notice what you are doing.
Practice strategic mimicry> the three key steps are Watch, Wait
& Wane. Watch what the other person is doing, once you observed, doesn’t
spring immediately into action; let the situation breathe. If he makes important
point, repeat back the main idea verbatim - but a bit later in the conversation
(don’t do many times) after you have mimicked, try to be less conscious of what
you are doing. AS NYtimes has noted, “And if that kind of flattery does not
close a deal, it may just be that the customer isn’t buying”.
The best sales people are not extraverts, not introverts, but
ambiverts. Ambiverts can find balance and they know when to speak up and when
to shut up. Their wider repertories allow them to achieve harmony with a
broader range of people and a more varied set of circumstances.
Discover the best way to start a conversation. Good to great
author, Jim Collins, says his favorite opening question is: where are you from?
Have a conversation with a time traveler (e.g. think of item that
somebody from 300 years ago would not recognize). Play mirror (see each other first;
turn around and change something- put glasses, removed watch etc. then see
face-to-face and ask what has changed
Discussion map. In your next meeting, cut through the clutter of
comments with a map that can help reveal the group’s social cartography. Draw a
diagram of where each person in the meeting is sitting. When a session begins,
note who speaks first by marking X next to that person’s name. Then each time
someone speaks add an X next to that name. If someone directs her/his comments to
a particular person, draw a line from the speaker to that person. When the
meeting is done, you will get a visual representation of who is talking the
most, who is sitting out, and who is the target of people’s criticism or
blandishments.
Napoleon Hill (author of Think and grow rich), wrote that the
first step in salesmanship was autosuggestion, the principle through which the
salesman saturates his own mind with belief in his own ability to sell. You
need to believe in yourself first that you can do it (or you can sell it).
Barbara Fredrickson of UNC is the leading researcher on positivity
- her catchall term for a basket of emotions including amusement, appreciation,
joy, interest, gratitude, and inspiration. The positive emotions broadness
people’s ideas about possible actions, opening our awareness to a wider range of
thoughts and making... us more receptive and more creative, she writes. Healthy
positive ratios as a calibration between two competing pulls: levity and
gravity. Levity is that unseen force that lifts you skyward whereas gravity is
the opposite force that pulls you earthward. Unchecked levity leaves you
flighty, ungrounded and unreal. Unchecked gravity leaves you collapsed in a
heap of misery. Yet, when properly combines, these two opposing forces leave
you buoyant.
positiveratio.com has her positivity self test and her book, Positivity
Top notch research reveals the 3 to 1 ration that will change your life is an
excellent popular intro to her academic work.
Martin Seligman’s book Learned optimism: How to change your mind
and your life and his web site: www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/Default.aspx
He says, negative events has an enormous effect on us. Try to de0catastrophize,
ask yourself - what are the overall consequences and why are those consequences
not nearly as calamitous as they seem on the surface. One way to remain buoyant
is to acquire a more realistic sense of what can actually sink you. You can do
that by counting your rejections and then celebrating them - enumerate and
embrace.
Motivational interviewing. On a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 is the
least, how ready are you to study? After the answer, ask the second question -
why didn’t you pick a lower number?
Putting content curation into practice is part art form, part science,
but mostly about daily practice, writes Kanter. When you prepared to ask
question, prepare a list of questions, improve your questions and prioritize
your questions.
Practice six pitches:
1. One word pitch. Write 50 word pitches and reduce to one word
2. The question pitch: use this technique, if your arguments are
strong and if they are weak, make a statement.
4. Subject line pitch: create subject line that create curiosity
5. Twitter pitch. Make your point sweet, short & simple
The Pixar pitch: All of Pixar stories have following common thread.
Once upon a time --- everyday,----- one day------. Because of that,-----. Because
of that....---------. Until finally ---------------. Try to bring your story
into this well known style to catch everyone’s observation.
Answer three key questions.
What do you want them to know, to feel & do?
Collect others pitch and record your own.
Add a visual
Pay attention to sequence and numbers (go first if you are incumbent,
last if are the challenger. Granular numbers are more credible than coarse
numbers)
Experiment with pecha-kucha.Such presentation contains 20 slides,
each of them appear for 20 seconds. Presenters make their pitch in 6inutes 40
seconds of perfectly timed words and images. The format promotes clarity
through constraints and because he slides advance automatically presenters must
convey their message with both elegance and speed.
Ask people to describe your invisible pitch in three words.
Instead of saying, “yes, but...” to someone’s idea, say, “yes and
...Instead of swirling downward into frustration with Yes, but, “Yes and ‘spirals
upward toward possibility. When you stop, you have got a set of options not a
sense of futility.
Recommended Books:
Influence: Science and practice by Robert Cialdini (persuasion)
Made to stick: why some ideas survive and others die by Chip Heath
and Dan heath
Switch by Chip Heath and Dan Heath
Mindless eating: why we eat more than we think by Brian Wansink
Nudge: Improving Decisions About health, wealth and happiness by
Richard H. Thaler and Cass R. Sunstein.
Impro: Improvisation and the theater by Keith Johnstone
Creating conversation: Improvisation in everyday discourse by R.
Keith Sawyer
The creative power of collaboration by R. Keith Sawyer
Improve Wisdom: Don’t prepare, just show up by Patricia Ryan
Madosn
The second City Almanac of Improvisation by Anne Libera.